Moving to DC, I knew a lot of things would change. For one, this was it for me. I'd made it my goal to get back here ever since I left 2.5 years ago. I yearned for it and I fought to be here. At times I thought it would never happen, but I'm here. I also knew that once I was here, I made it a goal to not only get in serious shape but to also open my heart to dating. Something I've never done.
I know I've talked about dating a lot before and how crazy foreign it is to me, but more important is figuring out what I'm looking for.
So much has changed. Divorce will do that to you.
So what kind of guy am I looking for? Genuinely?
First and foremost, He has to have a loving relationship with God. Like, a seriously great one. Not just "Yeah I pray" or "Yeah I am Christian," an active, committed relationship with Christ. It's so hard to find, but I've realized in virtually every single one of my past relationships, I've compromised on this. Growing up this was a core value for me, so how am I giving that up so easily? I don't want to have to spend time training a man to love God. He should be doing it already.
Second, he has to love his family like there is no other. There's a difference between being reliant on them and just loving them. I come from a broken family, so I yearn to be with someone whose family is whole, or at least genuinely happy. Sunday dinners, nieces and nephews, the whole thing. I love that.
Someone whose adventurous. I love to travel and don't do it near as often as I'd like. I want to be with someone who doesn't want to stay still for long. Someone who wants to get out and see what the world has to offer.
Obviously, someone who wants a family. I've had a baby on my brain and in my heart ever since I was a little girl. While it's still up in the air if I'll ever get to hold a child of my own, I know if God wants it to happen, it will.
A giving heart. There's nothing more attractive to me than someone who wants to give back. It doesn't mean spending every waking moment of your time volunteering, but someone who wants to do for others, spend time with the less fortunate, and just all around make the world a better, more positive place by just being in it. Nothing bothers me more than dating someone with "means" who never gives a dime or a minute of his time to help others.
I'm a mountain climber. I don't stop til I get to the top and I'm not there yet, not sure I'll ever be. This can be a bad thing, but for me...I just need to be with someone who is always seeking more. Someone who isn't content with the status quo.
Lastly, and the one that might sound craziest to some of you...I really need a Southern boy. Being here in DC, I'm in love but totally out of my element. Things like SEC football, sweet tea, tailgate parties, Sunday BBQ's, rockin' on the front porch, and blastin' country music are a HUGE part of my life. I can't imagine being with someone who doesn't like that, doesn't understand it, and doesn't love it as much as I do. I'm learning that truly being from the South is a whole 'nother world. I love it and I wouldn't have it any other way.
That's him. That's my guy in a nutshell.
If you're single, what are some of the musts on your list?