I may be dumb at dating, but one thing I'm not dumb at is understanding guys. For the most part. They continue to surprise and amaze, like this little sitch I am going to share with you all.
We all know there are blind girls. Dumb girls. The ones who will put up with just about anything from a guy, just because. Don't worry, I was once one of them not so long ago. Some girls set their sights on someone, whether he's good for them or not, and lose sight of all reason. Some of these girls knowingly involve themselves with someone who is already committed, which I find to be the worst type of offense.
Then, there are girls like me, who after having learned a lesson of that sorts in a past life, can see a train wreck/dirtbag from a mile away and realize it's not worth the dignity lost being involved in something so messy.
BOYS: It is not cool or attractive to us if you have a girlfriend and you're telling us how badly you wanted to bang our brains out when you had "the chance." First, you didn't have a chance, never did, and clearly never will. Second, if you wanted any chance at a relationship with us, you sure as heck aren't going to get one. What girl wants to be with a guy who is basically verbally cheating on his current girlfriend? So we can be the next? Yeah right dude. There is nothing less attractive than this and it continues to amaze me how often guys conduct themselves this way. My ex did it behind my back to goodness knows how many girls. It's vile. It's disgusting. It's wrong. It's sad to think about the poor, innocent girlfriend on the other end who is completely clueless to what her beloved boyfriend is doing behind her back. I always feel crazy sorry for them, believing their guys are awesome when in fact they are just dirty skeezers.
If you're going to be in a relationship, you need to be ALL IN. There is no kinda sorta or halfway or with her but with someone else too. Gross. The sooner you learn this lesson the better.
If only I had realized this last summer. Oy.
Like I said, guys aren't completely to blame here as I know a few girls (*Cough Cough* Trapper Keeper *Cough Cough*) who will do whatever they can to finagle a guy away from his current girlfriend. They know how to play the game and play it well. For girls with class, self respect, and dignity...that's not our style. For the guys that fall for it, you're dumb. Just plain dumb. Even dumber when your current girlfriend WARNS you about the possibility of your ex girlfriends antics and yet you STILL fall for her tricks. You are gross and you look like a dumbass.
No, I'm not bitter. Not bitter at all.
Okay but seriously, if you've got a girl...be good to her. Breakup with her if you're feeling like things are blah. For the love of pete and all things holy, save yourself a little bit of dignity and save your skeezing for when you're single.