"Truth and tears clear the way to a deep and lasting friendship."
- Mariede Svign
I am blessed beyond words.
The thing is y'all, sometimes what we hope for isn't what we were intended for. What we end up with is far greater than we could have imagined. I blogged a few weeks ago about still being confused over J & I's breakup. Trying to make sense of it all. I fumbled around with the idea that maybe, just maybe, my relationship with J was only to have a stronger one with his family. There's no doubt I believe that 100%.
We've been through more than you can imagine. Seriously, more than you can imagine. It's the easiest thing in the world to do, to choose sides, choose your son/brother over his ex girlfriend, and write it off as another casualty of a relationship that wasn't meant to be. That's never been the case with his family. It hasn't been easy, for anyone. There were times growing up that his family had to put their foot down when it came to inviting me over for family dinners and having me around the house while he was away to college. It was never a question. Looking back, I realize how truly incredible that is. Even recently upon moving out of his place, his dad looked in my eyes and shared the same emotion of knowing how hard that was for me.
One of the most momentous occasions in someone's life is happening to one of his sisters. She found the love of her life and is getting married later this year. You can read all about the proposal and such here. Again, it would be easy to say "I love you Shannon, but I have to think about my brother." Don't get me wrong, it didn't happen with ease, I'm sure she can attest to that, but I am so honored that I'll be standing with her on her wedding day as a bridesmaid. Don't think for a second I don't realize the gravity of it, the deep honor, and incredible amount of strength it took for her to make such a decision. If you guys only knew.