Permission to Be

The other day, I was deep in thought (as I usually am) about allowing certain people in your life. To me, allowing someone in is a privilege. It is not something that "just is" because you are family or share the same blood line. Not only does this apply to who YOU choose to have in your life but to those around you who choose to include you in theirs.

There comes a time when someone who once brought you joy and happiness, does no longer. They just aren't the same anymore. They've changed, as we know people constantly do. Perhaps you realize they haven't changed at all, ever, and it's time for them to go. Maybe this happened over time on your own or maybe something occurred in a violent, abrupt fashion to make you see. There's something funny about wanting to hold onto people we no longer need.

I feel that everyone comes into your life for a reason. The thing is, they truly don't have to stay forever. Sometimes you have to accept they were there, in that exact place and time, and served their purpose. That door is now closed and it's time to open another one.

Why is this such a novel concept that is so hard to grasp?

My firm belief is that if someone isn't pushing you forward, they are taking you backwards. If they are not lifting you up, they are taking you down. It's just not worth the time and energy anymore. We should surround ourselves on a daily basis with people who share our spirit and appreciate our inner beings.

Maybe I'm rambling after a lot of champagne and coffee and trying to distract myself from the mounds of homework in front of me. After the past few days I've had, this concept is ever present in my mind...