Match Me?!?

O.M.G.

Someone end my misery before it starts.

Okay, so first of all...I'm NOT joining any online dating sites. Not yet at least.

Second, I'm not jumping into the relationship bandwagon either. After all, there isn't even ink on my divorce papers...let alone anything dried! One of the most awesome things about being married was never having to date ever, ever again. I was sooooooooooo happy about that. I've never dated. Honestly. In my mind, dating is going out on excursions with several different people over a span of time. Never really committing yourself to any of them until you felt you had the right one. Yeah, Shannon has never done that. I've always ended up dating friends I've had for a long time. I think there have been a total of two guys who I didn't know well before I dated them. One was model guy from the pictures I posted. I met him randomly shooting a commercial. I don't do acting or modeling anymore, so meeting a guy on set is out of the question. Guy #2. Hmm. Where did I meet him? Oh geez. I'm embarrassed to say. Myspace. HAH! I completely forgot about that. Does anyone even use Myspace anymore? GROSS! So, as you can see...this is going to be very complicated for me.

I've mentioned before that I'm really thankful God has enabled me not to become hardened and rigid when it comes to men and future relationships. Again, this does not mean I in ANY WAY want to hop into a relationship in the near future. I'm just glad I'm not opposed to seeing what is out there.

In this day and age, I have no idea where to even think about meeting people. I'm not a bar/club girl, so that's not my scene nor the type of guy I want to be with. My work environment is not conducive to meeting men. The only chance for that is scoring the right kind of promotion or marketing gig. Still slim. Church? Haven't found one yet and though my faith is pinnacle, that makes me nervous. All signs point to online dating. ICK.

From what I can gather, online dating is just a big fish bowl of people looking to get laid. Uhhh, totally not my cup of tea. I've never been THAT girl and I'm certainly not looking to become her now. You always hear people SWEAR by it, but for just as many people who do I've heard those who say the opposite. I started Match and eHarmony profiles for the heck of it in high school. I never paid of course, but was just curious to see what it was all about. Not to mention, eHarmony went crazy with advertising that personality profile which in fact ended up being pretty spot on. Anyway, I ended up logging in, checking things out, and wasn't all that thrilled. There were a few guys who got my attention...but not really. Perhaps it's because I'm not ready and also just have very little tolerance for BS right now. Coming off a divorce makes you see things entirely different. Being 25 and divorced makes you realize there's no way in HELL you can have this happen again. The next guy has got to be amazingly awesome and 1000% verified in every way. None the less, I won't be joining either of those sites anytime soon.

I'm an old fashioned girl and never dreamed of taking to online dating to meet someone. It's not that I'm 100% opposed to it, but I sure as heck want to try things the normal way for now. I'm also not looking, so this way...if I'm meant to meet someone it will happen on its own. Since I moved to a completely new area, the best thing for me is to just get out, meet new people, make new friends, and explore. The best way to do that I feel, is through Meetup.com. Connecting with others who have similar interests is all I'm wanting to do. I think that's precisely what Meetup is. I've joined some singles groups, Christian groups, divorce groups, dog groups, and just about anything else applicable to my life. I haven't been able to really get to any events since I've been moving around so much. Now that I'm soon to be settled, I look forward to all of the fun that lies ahead.

What are everyone else's thoughts on online dating? Anyone had any experiences themselves or known people who have?